Observing that a live-in relationship between two consenting adults is not an offence, the Allahabad High Court recently granted police protection to a couple that lives together and has been facing harassment by family members. Youngsters shares their views on the same with NT KURIOCITY
I don’t appreciate the idea of live-in relationships. You don’t have to live together and have physical relationships to know each other well. You can know each other quite well even without live-in relationship. Relationships last when you are mentally and emotionally compatible with each other. If the couple has children, they would be illegitimate in the eyes of law in many countries. Most people would not like to marry a person who had been in live-in relationship in the past. Most societies (including India) don’t approve live-in relationships. Couples often carry the stigma for life, if they don’t marry later. If live-in relationship fails, the woman would not be entitled for any compensation as provided in the case of divorce. Hence, women are more vulnerable in such cases. Couples may lose interest in each other as quite often familiarity breeds contempt. Most males refuse to take the ownership of a child born out of a live-in relationship and the women have to carry the responsibility. Most people would not be interested marrying the single mother in a country like India. Children of such couples may suffer in their life as they may not get the name of their father. I feel that a live-in relationship is bad.
Ravindra Gurav, Gudi-Paroda
Under Article 21 of the Constitution of India, right to life is a fundamental right which is provided to all the citizens and shall not be deprived of his or her right to life and personal liberty. Therefore every individual is free to make his own choice. Previously most of the girls had no choice in choosing their life partner and at times would end up getting divorced. Live-in relationships give you the freedom to know each other very well, understand each other and talk freely while taking decisions. This can help in building a strong, healthy relationship. In today’s generation we see many broken relationships due to a lack of understanding, communication and difference in personality. A live-in relationship exposes individual traits and helps build mutual understanding.
Snezal Rodrigues, Merces
A live-in relationship is a widely accepted concept in western culture, but still a taboo in our country. Being in a live-in relationship makes a couple more understanding towards each other’s needs before taking the big step of marriage, thus helping them realise if they actually want to spend their lives together. A lack of communication, compatibility, interest, love and trust often leads to divorce which could be avoided. Opting for a live-in relationship gives one an experience of what it is like to live together while sharing responsibilities, growing trust and mutual understanding.
Maclyna Fernandes, Merces
Protection of life and personal liberty is a fundamental right under the Constitution of India. The rights guaranteed by Article 21 cannot be suspended even during the operation of a National Emergency. So, as a responsible, independent and mature adult, one does not need societal sanctions to make individual life choices. A rich section of the Indian Society considers live-in relationships as immoral and against the Indian culture. But, the order passed by the Allahabad High Court shows us that it is nothing wrong in the eyes of the law. We need more non-conformists to have a tolerant, open and equal society.
Deborah Furtado, Electronics Engineer, Varca