I had a girlfriend whom I loved more than my life and she loved me equally. We gave lots of time to each other and shared in each other's joys and sorrows.

There was perfect understanding between us. But I had to migrate abroad as the salary I was earning in Goa was not enough to raise a family. Being aware that a long-distance relationship is tough, I never missed calling her a single day, even though I was slogging for almost 15 hours a day. I also sent her money and gifts so that she would know I love her deeply. I never curtailed her freedom because I trusted her. However, in less than a year she broke up with me because she is in love with someone else. The reason she said was that I gave her loneliness. I accept this, and if I could I would have tried to be present there for her in her time of need. But I was away. Is it really natural for a girl to ditch her boyfriend without a reason? Where did I go wrong? What was my fault? The memory of our time together is mentally killing me! All my sacrifices have no value! I love her like crazy! I tried to make her understand that I've lost my soul and heart to her but she tells me to go to hell! I am helpless! Every minute she is on my mind! Please help me.
Dear Heart-Broken
Yours is a heart wrenching story. I understand the pain you must be feeling. I don’t think you deserve this hurt. No, it is not natural for a girl to end a relationship for no reason. You seem to be very understanding, perhaps too understanding to some extent. You have taken great pains to maintain the relationship. However, there could be some reasons for the break up. You were very serious about the relationship. But you didn’t know whether the girl was as serious as you. Not giving a good reason for the break up could imply she was never serious about it in the first place. As you said, long-distance relationships are tough. But if she really loved you, she would have waited for you. I don’t think you could have done things differently. However, next time do make sure the girl is as serious as you. Also refrain from giving gifts and money too soon, otherwise you will never know whether a girl likes you or your money more. I think you are better off without such a person. Get involved in work and other activities. The pain will decrease with time and you will find someone who really loves you.   
I am a married lady in my late thirties, without any children. I like a guy who is 24 years old. I met him in March 2011. He was teaching me computers for two months. I liked his way of teaching, his voice and everything. I found him an ideal man. He used to talk to me nicely. I also found him much more mature than his age. I remember him every day and I think I have fallen in love with him.  What should I do now? Should I tell him I love him? And what should I do if my husband comes to know about this? I have lost interest in my husband. He is not at all compatible with me. What should I do?
Dear Confused
What you are experiencing is not love but infatuation. You seem to like the attention this young boy gave you. It made you feel good about yourself. This is something you don’t get in your current marriage. Hence you need to work on your marriage. Find out what is making you dissatisfied with your marriage and discuss it with your husband. Every marriage goes through rough phases. If you work on it, then your marriage will improve. Perhaps you could visit a marriage counselor. The sooner you get over this infatuation the better it will be for you and your marriage.
I was seriously in love with a girl for more than one year. But now we have broken-up for some reason. I have hurt her a lot during our break-up. But if I try to forget her I am just not able to do it. I have been trying a lot not to remember her but she is always on my mind. Please suggest something. I just want to move on in life and never again trust this thing called love. It’s been so painful. Please help.
Dear Forget-Me-Not
The mind can sometimes play tricks on us. The more you try to forget something the more you end up remembering it. This is because you are repeatedly focusing on the thing you want to forget and bring it to conscious memory, thus never allowing yourself to forget it. You need to immerse yourself in other activities and give your full attention to the task at hand. This leaves no room for the mind to wander off to other painful memories. If you do this, with time the memories of her will start fading as you get interested in other people and activities. 
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